A Hasty Judgment is a First Step to Recantation

"A hasty judgment is a first step to recantation"~Publilius Syrus "Never look down on anybody, unless you are going to help them up. "~ Rev. Jesse Jackson "Men of ill judgment oft ignore the good that lies within their hands, till they have lost it. ~ Sophocles These quotes say so much about JUDGEMENT. And there are so many people who make judgements, without knowing all the facts. Or, they may not really care about the facts. Maybe their judgements are based on something they have adversly experienced in their past. Or these people who judge have had their views manipulated. I am finding that manipulation of authority figures; judges, therapists, police officers, teachers, mediators is a very common practice done by a Narcasissist and a person who is the alienator in PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME. The abuser uses the system to pathologize the victim, and to seperate the victim from their source of emtional sustenance~notably from the children. And he will use any available authority figure to do it. Therapists, marriage counselors, mediators, teachers, police officers, and judges are human. Some of them are social reactionaries, others are abusers, and a few are themselves spouse abusers. Many things work against the victim facing the justice system and the psychological profession.Start with denial. Abuse is such a horrid phenomenon that society and its delegates often choose to ignore it or to convert it into a more benign manifestation, typically by pathologizing the situation or the victim – rather than the perpetrator. They are amenable to the considerable charm, persuasiveness, and manipulativeness of the abuser and to his impressive thespian skills. The abuser offers a plausible rendition of the events and interprets them to his favor. The therapist rarely has a chance to witness an abusive exchange first hand and at close quarters. In contrast, the abused are often on the verge of a nervous breakdown: harassed, unkempt, irritable, impatient, abrasive, and hysterical. There is little the victim can do to "educate" these professionals or "prove" to him who is the guilty party. Professionals are as ego-centered as the next person. They are emotionally invested in opinions they form or in their interpretation of the abusive relationship. They perceive every disagreement as a challenge to their authority and are likely to pathologize such behavior, labeling it "resistance" (or worse). So based on this information, I will assume that the lovely principal in my writing prior to this, has been duped. Either that or she is just as narcsissistic as my ex husband. And if this is the case, and this is a person that we trust to care for and teach our children, WHAT THE HELL ARE WE THINKING?!!