THE VERBAL BATTERING~and I thought I was past it

It has been over 6 years now, that I divorced my abuser. I have been in therapy; I have healed the wounds to only emotional scars. I have moved past being a victim; HIS VICTIM. Or so I thought. I WAS SO WRONG. Because of recent events, namely my ex again cutting off my oldest daughter from seeing our children, I called him. I nicely said I wanted to discuss our son, who is having behavior problems in school. This is the first time I have spoke to this man in several years. Of course, he knew that my reason was 2 fold. And he made it clear that he was aware that I had requesting my children's school records. And that he was none too happy. And it began........again....the name calling, the accusations, the smart comments, the belittling, the cruelty. Even on the phone, I began ducking my head. Of course, I tried to remain calm,but my hands were shaking. I was suddenly being transported back into the past, where walking on egg shells was the norm. Where threats of death, in ways that only a Army Special Forces soldier could perform it, was a daily experience. I have to congratulate the Army and the Special Forces Command; they did a wonderful job enabling an abuser and gave him the perfect tools to hone this skill. HOOAAHH.(now that I have THAT off my chest) My ex made it very clear he did not want me speaking to my children and demanded that I never call his home again. I tried to calmly explain that he could not do this, even the fact he did not inform me that he had moved the children was wrong. He would hear none of this. He then let me know, with a sadistic little chuckle, that the school had a big surprise waiting for me. I couldn't begin to imagine because as a non custodial parent, I still had rights. Little did I know......... The following day, I called the school and was immediatly connected to the principal, whom I had never spoke to before. This woman began yelling at me as well. Again transported to years ago, the life of a battered woman. Now, not only was my ex victimizing me, but the school principal was as well. She continued to scream at me that I did not have custody, HE DID and she was unwilling to do anything for me. She informed me she felt that she HAD to call my ex and report to him that I had requested my children's records. THIS IS NOT THE LAW, BUT HER CHOICE! BECAUSE AS SHE SAID YOU DO NOT HAVE CUSTODY. Apparently my ex has played his greatest show, on the stage and performing to the school staff......The GOOD father, how he was done wrong, putting on his charm, and playing up and stroking them. And of course I am the BAD parent. HOW DARE HE?? HOW DARE SHE??? SHE IS THE PROFESSIONAL!! She said she did not want to be in the middle of a domestic dispute. By calling my ex, she put herself right in the middle. She was unwilling to look at any documentation that would have supported me. When I spoke to her about the abuse that has been witnessed in my ex's home, she ignored me. So what is this saying????? THAT THE SCHOOL PROTECTS THE ABUSER AND NOT THE CHILDREN??? Seems this way to me. But isn't it her legal obligation to report any abuse to the proper authorities??? And instead she calls the abuser, and informs him, "HEY MR.SEYMOUR, DO YOU ABUSE YOUR KIDS??" As if he will respond, "HELL YEA, and just wait til they get home today...." SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME....whos reality check is bouncing here??