Monday, February 20, 2006

What is HOSTILE AGRESSIVE PARENTING???

My My, I have found a new term...HAP...Hostile Agressive Parenting....That is a mouthful, isn't it??? But very interesting stuff here. The information I have found says that HAP is a pattern of behaviour, manipulation, actions or decision-making of a person (usually a parent or guardian) that a) creates undue difficulties or interferences in the relationship of a child with another person (usually a parent or guardian) involved with the parenting and/or rearing of the child and/or, b) promotes or maintains an unwarranted unfairness or inequality in the parenting arrangements between a child’s parents and/or guardians and/or, c) promotes ongoing and unnecessary conflict between parents and/or guardians which adversely affects the parenting, well-being and rearing of a child. There are tons of symtoms, going from moderate to severe..... Will badmouth the other parent in front of the children Will impede normal and healthy telephone communication, such as supervising phone talk with kids, etc Will not let older children speak for themselves Will play on the children’s feeling of guilt and sympathy. Will be uncooperative when it comes to working out summer and holiday schedules for children. Fail to involve the other parent in the choice of daycare providers. SEVERE Use excessive physical discipline on their children. Openly violate court orders and agreements, especially in relation to parenting time Fabricate false sexual or physical abuse allegations against the other parent involving the children Instruct the child’s school not to provide information or report cards to the other parent and/or attempt to keep the other parent from attending school activities or events Get the child to call the other parent by their first name For more symtoms check out http://www.hostile-aggressive-parenting.com/symptoms_of_HAP.asp HOSTILE AGRESSIVE PARENTING IS PSYCHOLOGICAL CHILD ABUSE!!