FORT BRAGG SPECIAL FORCES WIFE MURDERS~revisited

Okay, I know....this is past right??? 2002.... four years ago.... But how can something be put in the past when the problem has really not been solved??? Oh thats right.......there has been nothing in the media......No News No Problems....right??? WRONG!!!! I am not sure which idiot thinks that this kind of thing just goes away?? Maybe the same person who assumes that these incidents just were one of a kind, based on war time situations, drugs given to the soldiers ect.......which is really ignorant ......Is spouse abuse uncommon in the Special Forces community?? HELL NO.... The media getting wind of it.......Definitly uncommon. Tanya Biank lucked out that day before the Special Ops command could put a big KABASH on it. The old Green Beret Brotherhood is real careful now...ssshhh......don't tell a soul.....or we might have to kill ya.... YEA... very true.... Wonder what happened to all those ex wives who were calling Tanya up to tell their stories...According to reports hundreds of them.......We sure don't hear a word about them now, do we??? Except for me.......Coz I don't listen...And I may be afraid, but not afraid enough. If I am going to die by some SF soldiers hand or by the hand of God it is going to happen and there is NOTHING I can do to change it. So...onward I go........Let's take the case of Master Sgt. William Wright, who strangled his wife Jennifer and then buried her body in a shallow grave. He confessed June 29, 2002 and then led authorities to her body. The couple had been having marital problems prior to his going off to war. Apparently after strangling his wife, he put her body is a parachute recovery bag, took her body to Fort Bragg, buried her, and then took his sons fishing. He reported her missing 2 days later, saying he thought she may have run off with another man. 3 weeks later he confessed. Authorities and experts have tried to blame this on the drug lariam or the recent deployments to Iraq. Guess what.......I say BULL SH**!!!! Back in 1998, I was married to one of these "ELITE SPECIAL FORCES SOLDIERS". I can't even begin to count the amount of times he threatened me and my teenage daughter with details of how he would "take us out"(kill) and bury us in the wood line on Fort Bragg and no one would ever find our bodies. Seems my ex and Bill Wright went to the same school.(OMG THEY DID...THE Q COURSE AND AN "A" TEAM and the exact same 3rdGroup!!!) Amazing how I was threatened this way and eventually one of them actually did it. The story said that Jennifer was seeking a divorce. She had told her family she was no longer happy. Does this spell out an "AFFAIR"?? I don't think so, but there has to be an excuse. Everyone forgot that domestic abuse had already gone on with in the family. But seeking help is a NO NO a sign of weakness. And NO ONE better leave an SF soldier....they leave you. No one has mentioned that in the SF BROTHERHOOD there is a saying...."what goes on down range, stays down range". That in this elite brotherhood of REAL MEN who are 10 feet tall and bulletproof, they all cover each others butts and cheating on their spouse is a NORM....not an exception. But AHA, no one will discuss this....That maybe Jennifer finally had enough of the cheating, heard enough stories, and said she was done. Maybe she got tired of living with a man who was so controlling, who came home talking about his "kills", or who had to spend his home time, going to the team room drinking with the boys. What is even more amazing, is when my wonderful ex pulled a knife on me, held it to my throat and described in detail how he would gut me like a pig, although he was arrested, the case just dissappeared. POOF like Special Forces Magic.... This same group of commanders came to our custody hearing, along with his Girlfriend, the one they had ALL passed around, and testified to what a wonderful soldier he was and had so much honor and integrity. And there he sat with his Girlfriend whom they knew he had been having an adulterous affair with. I wonder if they were aware that he even showed me some of their "secret" hand to hand combat tactics?? I mean right down to showing me how to take a credit card and sliding it between my front teeth to slice someones neck with......Oh yea I had some first hand experience with this stuff... And what have they done since all of this??? NOTHING..... They are still cheating, still lying, still abusing in the brotherhood, I got your back Bra..... But now it is all HUSH HUSH...in case someone is media....OH NO... yet to this day his ambiguous threats have continued..... He recently said to my older daughter, when she was trying to visit her brother and sisters, That she needed to erase me, her mother..... That she would have to wait until "this" blew over...(what is "THIS"?) unless she was afraid she was going to die.....In fact, if you were dead it would make my job alot easier...........Ain;'t that wonderful??? Has he got help for this?? HELL NO.... he was trained how to pass psych evals, how to answer questions with what they wanted to hear...He is a professional psychopath. These men are trained to kill their enemy....it just so happens that sometimes the wife turns into the enemy........ROGER THAT??? WHOOOAAHH DE OPPRESSO LIBER.........to free the opressed??? Who Frees their abused??

Today, in a conversation a few of us were having, we were discussing the Ship of Fools....How we as people see other people in need of help or intervention but we allow this "ship" to continue to sail from port to port and no one takes the time to get involved. Maybe out of fear, maybe we are too busy, or maybe we just don';t want to make waves or cause trouble...and so the ship continues to sail the same cycle over and over. With Parental Alienation (PAS) there are many common factors...... 1. Many people are aware that something is wrong but are unable to put their finger on exactly what. 2. Alienators often keep the children incredibly close, thus limiting the opportunities for someone else to observe or have influence on them. 3. By the time people start putting the pieces together they are often no longer involved with the parent or child due to no. 4. 4. Alienators will often immediately disassociate themselves and the child from anyone who challenges them or who fails to completely align with their beliefs and practices. 5. Sadly, for many people, it is a case of “in the too hard basket”. After all, many would not know where to go? Whom to inform? And who will both listen and act? Why do we, as human beings wait until it is almost too late or that so much damage is done that it may be too hard to fix ,to speak up???? I just bet anyone reading this has seen some of these signs in a family they know....yet felt it was none of their business to say a thing..... And yet you might rant or rave about child abuse, spouse abuse, or other social issues. Why not speak up?? Are you that fearful of losing that friendship?? Is it really worth the guilt that you may carry around, knowing deep down that something is just not right?? Parental Alienation is Child Abuse, plain and simple. You can disect it, twist it around, turn it upside down.... and it still spells child abuse....if one of your good friends was being abused either physically or emotionally by their spouse, you would pull the friend over to the side and offer her/him advice.... offer help....give opinions.........WHY is it so much harder to come to the defense of a CHILD??? Sure go ahead, turn your head, look the other way..... and join those people on the Ship of Fools.... Keep your head in the sand....But DO NOT QUESTION SOCIETY WHEN THESE SAME CHILDREN COMMIT CRIMES, COMMIT SUICIDE, OR BECOME SOCIAL PROBLEMS...........YOU AIDED IN THE CREATION....BY IGNORING WHAT YOUR GUT TOLD YOU!!! BY NOT SPEAKING UP!!!

Best Interest of the Child~Part Deux

I have had so many responses to my questions, what is in the best interest of a child and what makes a good parent. Seems many people have some great ideas, some not so great, but one person said it all. I feel the need to repeat it here as she definitly has a handle on it all. My thanks to O.P. She is truly appreciated!!! This just touches on the surface of parenting. I believe the whole problem in divorce situations is that the parents MUST decide to love their children more than they dislike the other parent. The insecurity and fear the child might possibly love the other parent more makes it difficult to parent. If parents could just understand that it is NORMAL for children to love both parents and need both parents and if thatparent could be confident in the love of their child, there would be somany fewer problems and issues.Below is pretty much the standard when it comes to deciding "BestInterest." Best interest of the child. The court, in making an award of parentalrights and responsibilities with respect to a child, shall apply the standard of the best interest of the child. In making decisions regarding the child's residence and parent-child contact, the court shall consider as primary the safety and well-being of the child. In applying this standard, the court shall consider the following factors: The age of the child; The relationship of the child with the child's parents and any otherpersons who may significantly affect the child's welfare; The preference of the child, if old enough to express a meaningfulpreference; The duration and adequacy of the child's current living arrangements andthe desirability of maintaining continuity; The stability of any proposed living arrangements for the child; The motivation of the parties involved and their capacities to give thechild love, affection and guidance; The child's adjustment to the child's present home, school andcommunity; The capacity of each parent to allow and encourage frequent andcontinuing contact between the child and the other parent, includingphysical access; The capacity of each parent to cooperate or to learn to cooperate inchild care; Methods for assisting parental cooperation and resolving disputes andeach parent's willingness to use those methods; The effect on the child if one parent has sole authority over thechild's upbringing; The existence of domestic abuse between the parents, in the past orcurrently, and how that abuse affects: The child emotionally; and The safety of the child; The existence of any history of child abuse by a parent; All other factors having a reasonable bearing on the physical andpsychological well-being of the child; A parent's prior willful misuse of the protection from abuse process in chapter 101 in order to gain tactical advantage in a proceeding involving the determination of parental rights and responsibilities of a minor child. Such willful misuse may only be considered if established by clear and convincing evidence, and if it is further found by clear and convincing evidence that in the particular circumstances of the parents and child, that willful misuse tends to show that the acting parent will in the future have a lessened ability and willingness to cooperate and work with the other parent in their shared responsibilities for the child. The court shall articulate findings of fact whenever relying upon this factor as part of its determination of a child's best interest. The voluntary dismissal of a protection from abuse petition may not, taken alone, be treated as evidence of the willful misuse of the protection from abuse process; If the child is under one year of age, whether the child is being breast-fed; and The existence of a parent's conviction for a sex offense or a sexuallyviolent offense as those terms are defined in Title 34-A, section 11203. However, sometimes when a decision is made and the judge says this is in the best interest of the child, he does not have a clue. How is in the best interest of the child to allow one parent to move 15 hours away from a parent the was extremely active in the child's life?How is it in the best interest of a child to not enforce court ordered visitation? I am sure any one of you could add to my comments. What makes a good parent when parents are divorced. A good listener: As parents, we sometimes are quick to judge our child's actions orchoice of words, that we do not hear their cries for love, attention, orhelp. We should listen to their feelings, reactions, and opinions. Tryto understand their point of view. Look at them when they are talking toshow that you are hearing their every word. Put down that book, turn offthat television, stop what you are doing and listen! A good example: We should treat our kids as our equals and not as subordinates. The "do as I say and not as I do" mentality doesn't work. Teach your child howto be responsible, caring, a hard worker, patient, etc by exhibitingthose characteristics within yourself. It's not too late for you to doso. Makes time for the family: It's true that many of us have to work to provide our family with theessentials. In doing so, remember that material things cannot substitutelove and quality time from a parent. Your child should know that theyare important to you. They should not have to compete against your job.The position and title that you hold and your job cannot be passed on,but the love, the traditions, and time put into your family can be carried throughout generations. Get involved in your child's life. Respect their interests, do not down play them as mediocre. Share insome of the activities you enjoy. Become familiar with the currenttrends. It may be a little different than what you're used to, but thatdoesn't mean you can't learn to at least respect it. Displays unconditional love: Love your child no matter what. Never allow them to have a doubt in their minds of your love for them. At times they may disappoint you,anger you, or even disrespect you, but even during those times theyshould know that they are loved by you. No one is perfect, we've allmade mistakes and will continue to. Shower those imperfections with love. It's not much! Simple things that we, as parents, can do everyday.And one other good resource Co-parenting responsibilities apply to all parents whether they are married or divorced. The extent that parents can effectively co-parenttheir children greatly determines how children will adjust to thetransitions associated with divorce. Parents who have primary residential custody usually deal with more day-to-day issues concerning their child/children's welfare. another decisions, like those concerningreligion, discipline, finances, morality, recreation, physical health,education and emergencies should be discussed and made jointly. Remember that married parents often have differing ideas about all or some ofthese issues. This is to be expected. There is no reason to assume that divorced parents should always agree on them either. What's important ishow you deal with differences, not that they exist. It is better for parents to agree to disagree and practice compromising than to argue and fight endlessly for their own way. This, however, is often easier said than done. Choosing your battles is the first step. For example, ifthere are problems with school related issues like completing homeworkor punctuality, discuss these with the other parent. However, while proper nutrition might be important to you, forgoing the battle about what your child eats when with the other parent might be a good idea.Once some of the emotionality of the divorce begins to clear, this topiccan be revisited. Parents (especially those in the early stages of separation and divorce) should give one another some room to parent. Inaddition, look for opportunities to praise each others parentingabilities. This kind of well-chosen reinforcement can be very effectivein fostering the correct co-parenting atmosphere. Most all parents havesome redeeming qualities when it comes to their kids. Parents who chosetheir battles and cooperate when there are differences are more likelyto make healthy decisions for their children. In fact, nurturing anoverall spirit of cooperation is more important than parents agreeing onany one particular issue. Also, parents who acknowledge and effectively deal with their own difficult feelings about the divorce usually have an easier time moving on. On the other hand, recurrent arguments between parents make life difficult for children and parents alike. When parentsfight for their own agenda and neglect creating a peaceful environment,their children may develop bitter feelings and have difficulties later in life with their own intimate relationships. Remembering to relate maturely and with a healthy sense of respect for the other parent (even in the face of great differences and in some cases bad feelings) is the challenge for every divorcing parent. Fostering such an environment teaches children much about love, life, Parenting is probably one of the hardest jobs there is. You only getONE go around so it is important to make the best of it the first time around.